I know I've only been married 9 months, but so far, I would say marriage is a lot better than I expected. I thought I would get bored eating every meal, because it's so routine and boring. But it's not that big of a deal; it becomes a part of life -- cooking and eating together. I thought I would get bored doing the same things all the time, or trying to do everything together. But it turns out, I still have my individuality. We can do things independently too. We have a nice balance of doing things together and doing things apart. And it's nice to have the stability and security of always having someone be apart of almost everything.
And it's nice to be silly with (or to eye roll at) each other. Even though we see each other's weaknesses, we don't really mind. You be you, and I'll be me. And hopefully we become better over time.
Of course, all this will probably change when we have kids. But I'm probably wrong about kids too. I probably wrongly think they will take my life and individuality away. That I'll be a professional chauffeur, driving them to piano and swimming and whatever else lessons. Everything becomes about them, and I'll have no identity. And then when I try to make friends with other moms, all they'll want to talk about is their kids. Can we just talk about what God is doing in your life? Can you just talk about how you're feeling? Can we just cry together and be vulnerable with each other?
Actually, I think that won't happen. Someone reminded me that our generation is different. We still keep our identities even when we become moms. And the other factor I missed is that you'll love your kids so much, you won't mind talking about them all the time. A common thing I hear from moms is that they go on "vacation" away from their kids, and then they start to miss their kid right away. But that was the whole point of the "vacation away from kids"..... Or the couple goes on a date while their parents/friends watch their kids, and the couple just ends up missing their baby or talking about the baby on the date... When I hear those stories, I just can't imagine myself feeling the same way. But that's probably because I'm not a mom.
I really like science experiments and psychological observations (and forming bad theories out of them). So maybe having a kid will just give me more material for my theories and experiments.
